Do you ever have those periods of time where life seems to be going pretty darn good? When things are going fantastic and you’re kickin’ butt? Or, they’re just positive and relaxed, and then…
…you’re faced with an extremely difficult person or situation that really pushes your limits?
Perhaps you get broken up with, lose your job, or someone you care about says something really hurtful…
Tough situations and difficult, non-supportive people are really some of life’s greatest gifts. They provide us with some of the largest opportunities for growth by forcing us to stand our ground, persevere and give ourselves the love we deserve.
The same can be said about emotional breakdowns, or sudden waves of feelings and thoughts that get triggered by events in our lives…sometimes ones as small as finding out they discontinued our favorite flavor of Oreo.
As they say, it’s always darkest before the dawn.
The whole process is kind of like throwing up. You feel really, really shitty while everything is working its way through and out of your system…and then after you’ve hurled everything up you feel as good as new. Not to mention, you often also have some fresh insight into what caused it and how best to handle it or prevent it from happening again in the future.
Feelings and emotions are part of the human experience. They are meant to come and then go… but if you don’t let them in, they cannot and will not leave.
They will pound on the doors of your soul until you finally are forced to let them in…and by that time they will have either multiplied, or gotten so strong that they will make it impossible to do anything other than curl up on the couch for three days, cry and prepare for the world to end.
Denying your feelings will not make them go away.
This last week I listened to a podcast that featured a guest speaker by the name of Ryan Yokome. His talk was all about exploring and embracing our shadow selves aka all the parts of ourselves that we have tried to hide or deny throughout our lives.
In the episode he mentioned a metaphor that I thought really fit this week’s topic. He said that the parts we don’t like about ourselves- or in this case, the feelings that we don’t want to feel- act sort of like beach balls in a pool. We can try and try to push them under the surface, but no matter what they are going to keep popping back up.
It is far healthier and more productive to acknowledge that the beach ball is there, accept its presence and then either pick it up and remove it from your pool, or let it float away.
Feeling our feelings is healthy and also critical to releasing them.
As humans we have access to a large array of different emotions, none of which we should be ashamed to experience. While avoiding them may help us temporarily feel less anger and sadness, doing so will also lead us to develop negative habits and prevent us from feeling happiness and joy.
Feelings bear messages.
Learning the language of our feelings enables us to access to our intuition, creativity and unique inner wisdom. We all hold within us the answers we wish to seek… so, listen to your feelings, acknowledge them, make room for them to be felt, learn from them and let them go.