Eliminating Your "Shoulds"

(adapted from an exercise in Louise Hay's book You Can Heal Your Life)


This is one of my favorite exercises to do when I’m feeling like I’m being pulled from all angles with too much to do and not enough time, energy or desire to do any of it!

I came across it while reading Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life (listen now for free). I’ve adjusted it a bit and I now use it regularly on myself and with my clients.

It’s perfect for de-cluttering your mind, shortening your to-do list and reconnecting with what’s important to YOU.

Begin by getting out your journal, or a couple blank pieces of paper.

Then, begin writing down all of the things you feel like you SHOULD do.

Ex: I should get straight A’s, I should go to college, I should call my mom and say happy birthday, I should go to the gym 3x a week, I should be more successful, etc.

Once you’ve written out all of your "shoulds", go back through your list and ask yourself, “Why Should I?”

Write your answers down.

Next, go back to your original list and replace all of the “shoulds” with “If I really wanted to I could…”

Finally, go through your list of "if I really wanted to I could..." statements and ask yourself what's stopping you from doing them.

Look for the true intention behind each of them.

Is it something you want?

Or is it something your parents want or something that’s stemming from societal pressure?

Be really honest with yourself and write one final list of all the things that you COULD and truly WANT to do.

If you have any questions or would like to dive deeper into eliminating your “SHOULDS”, feel free to send me a note at thesoulfillmentapproach@gmail.com